Love is the driving force of life, but before we all find our soulmate in life, we end up heartbroken at least a few times.

The pain after a failed relationship is often too deep to get back on the feet. We start doubting ourselves, have much less faith, we are in a shock or denial, and feel depressed and lonely.

Yet, the only successful way to move on is to give love another chance.

Here are 5 strategies to help you:

• Allow yourself to feel, to heal. After losing a beloved partner and a devastating breakup, it is natural to be angry and sad. Practice self-kindness by allowing yourself to have those feelings. Speak honestly about your worries and fears, and make sure you know what you ask from your future partner. If you hide your past, your next significant partner might get confused by your vulnerability.
• After losing your loved one, you find it hard to open up to someone else again. However, you need to understand that you have to allow someone else to love you. Accept your vulnerability, and don’t be afraid to try once more. Be patient with yourself, and remember that a failed relationship does not define you.
• Learn the lesson from your mistakes, but don’t focus on the past. You need to move forward, as nothing will compensate your lost time. Plus, things won’t be the same every time. You should believe that you will meet the right person eventually. Be grateful for what you’ve learned so far and prepare yourself for the new challenge.
• You won’t be hurt in every relationship, just because you haven’t been happy in love so far. Don’t date people just because they are the complete opposite of your ex. It is time to let him go. Don’t look at love with bitterness and resentment, but try to have a positive outlook and hope for the best.
• Remember that you deserve to love and be loved. You are not the only culprit for everything that has gone wrong in your love life. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you have done, and accept the fact that you can be “the special one “ for someone out there. Don’t waste your time, and grab the chance to enjoy life again!

Sources:
tinybuddha.com
wearyourvoicemag.com
www.ebony.com