People are well aware of the power of love- love is the essence of life, it heals and brings joy, comforts and encourages. Due to its value, true love is not easy to find and to make things even more tricky, sometimes, other things can fool us behind the mask of love.
It is undoubtedly challenging to find a soulmate, someone just for you.
Thus, in many cases, we tend to urge our loved ones to change, just to satisfy our needs and beliefs. This might be because we are wrapped up in the idea of love, so we keep shaping our loved ones, and try to hold them to our too high expectations.
In fact, we are just forcing our partner to make us feel like we believe the rest of the world is feeling.
Yet, when you love truly, you should accept your loved one for who they really are, without insisting to fix them according to your preferences. You have no right to mold them to fit your idea of a perfect partner.
Since you spend a lot of time together, it is also normal that you influence his or her habits and character. Moreover, you show each other new ideas, experiences, and concepts, you develop new ones together.
Also, you should stimulate and support your partner to do better in life, but you should never force him or her in a direction they don’t want to go.
This is a matter of respect, and true love is respectful and selfless. Both partners in a relationship should feel free to grow and supported to do any step forward.
Keep in mind that no one is perfect, so try changing yourself before you try to change anyone else.
If you have found real love, your relationship is filled with care, support, and acceptance. You get along well, share similar goals and values in life, do not ignore each other, and you do not feel like something is missing.
Love is inherently emphatic, compassionate, and free, so you should not imprison your loved one. It knows that we are all interconnected, so love cares what becomes of you.
Love cannot be manipulated, it knows that the “other” is also oneself, and it respects the sovereignty of each soul. If you have found it, consider yourself lucky, as some people spend their entire lifetime on the quest for true love.
If you haven’t, let it find you, and it will come when you least expect it.
Then, just embrace it.
Sources:
thoughtcatalog.com
www.aconsciousrethink.com
www.psychologytoday.com
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